Sunday, May 13, 2012
Being second best almost means being last...
I've never liked the idea of being second best. I know we all have our competitive tendencies, others don't fancy it too much. I have always been my worst critic...everything I do in life: school, work, relationships, and so on and so forth. In reality, we can't always be number 1 but it would sure nice to be. My girlfriend "lectured" me about being second best and how it was not in my nature to be second in anything. She lifted my spirits by showing me how much she valued me. It's funny because we tend to forget as we always get caught up in the moment. Let's take a look at it from a dating aspect.
Ladies (and gentlemen), have you ever tried getting to know someone or perhaps dated someone, but always struggled to comprehend where you stand with that person? I am sure many of you single folks have heard it before..."oh i am just dating different people. haven't really found the right one that does it for me." Well, every time I hear that statement, i laugh. come on, let's be real. you are not the only one in that person's life. in fact, you could be one of two, one of three, one of five...you get the point. In my early 20's, I remember a gf of mine in college used to say, "hey, i don't worry to much about them other women. if he's talking to 5 girls, then if I am the one he truly wants, they'll all eventually disappear and he'll only want me" I always appreciated her thought process and I started applying her theory to my dating life. Years passed, people came and people went. Most of the time... or I should probably say ALL of the time, the men I dated were just absolutely wrong for me for SO MANY reasons. But the one thing that stuck with me was what my friend told me. I never worried about the other women my dude was 'potentially' dating. All this time, I was thinking it ALL wrong. Why would I be 'okay' with a man sharing his attention with 4 other women, while I am only getting 20%? Really, is that what I am worth? Hell to the No. I am about to be 30 in 5 months... and I have had it all wrong after all these years.
Second best is not an option. Have I settled with some aspects of my life? I certainly have. Can I change that? I certainly can. I recently got involved with someone that ...I could be certain that he has other women occupying his time. Knowing that this is a possibility, why have i managed to stay in this relationship? Hmm. Great question. If I had the answer, then I wouldn't be writing this blog. Bottom line, I have settled for being second best (or third best for all I know). Unacceptable. Especially to my, what I once considered, high standards.
Ladies (and dudes), don't get caught up on some nonsense. There are too many men and women in this world for you to be settling at second best. One day you will meet your King or Queen that will treat you like royalty...and that means always putting you first. I haven't lost faith. But, I am going to be smarter as I get closer to the big 3-0. Smarter...wiser...however you want to call it.
Ladies (and gentlemen), have you ever tried getting to know someone or perhaps dated someone, but always struggled to comprehend where you stand with that person? I am sure many of you single folks have heard it before..."oh i am just dating different people. haven't really found the right one that does it for me." Well, every time I hear that statement, i laugh. come on, let's be real. you are not the only one in that person's life. in fact, you could be one of two, one of three, one of five...you get the point. In my early 20's, I remember a gf of mine in college used to say, "hey, i don't worry to much about them other women. if he's talking to 5 girls, then if I am the one he truly wants, they'll all eventually disappear and he'll only want me" I always appreciated her thought process and I started applying her theory to my dating life. Years passed, people came and people went. Most of the time... or I should probably say ALL of the time, the men I dated were just absolutely wrong for me for SO MANY reasons. But the one thing that stuck with me was what my friend told me. I never worried about the other women my dude was 'potentially' dating. All this time, I was thinking it ALL wrong. Why would I be 'okay' with a man sharing his attention with 4 other women, while I am only getting 20%? Really, is that what I am worth? Hell to the No. I am about to be 30 in 5 months... and I have had it all wrong after all these years.
Second best is not an option. Have I settled with some aspects of my life? I certainly have. Can I change that? I certainly can. I recently got involved with someone that ...I could be certain that he has other women occupying his time. Knowing that this is a possibility, why have i managed to stay in this relationship? Hmm. Great question. If I had the answer, then I wouldn't be writing this blog. Bottom line, I have settled for being second best (or third best for all I know). Unacceptable. Especially to my, what I once considered, high standards.
Ladies (and dudes), don't get caught up on some nonsense. There are too many men and women in this world for you to be settling at second best. One day you will meet your King or Queen that will treat you like royalty...and that means always putting you first. I haven't lost faith. But, I am going to be smarter as I get closer to the big 3-0. Smarter...wiser...however you want to call it.
Tuesday, May 8, 2012
Support my friend as he runs in memory of his mother's life...
The worst thing you can probably ever go through in life is losing a loved one. Unfortunately, a dear friend of mine, lost his mother last month as she battled cancer. I never met her, but I heard she was a fighter. I am sure all of us can't imagine losing someone that close to you... but I know that she is in peace and is watching over her dear family.
If you are reading this, I am asking you to find it deep in your heart to support my friend in his upcoming marathon run this fall, by donating to this charity. He needs to reach his fundraising goal for the his marathon for American Cancer Society. $5, $10, any amount you can contribute will help a great deal. I would be so grateful to know that I have friends willing to help any friend of mine.
To donate, please visit: http://main.acsevents.org/site/TR/DetermiNation/DNFY11IL?pg=pfind&fr_id=42914 and type in :
First Name: Rodney
Last Name: Tumaliuan
Rodney and his sister will be running in memory of their mother, Redempta Tumaliuan.
Thank you and God Bless you all!
If you are reading this, I am asking you to find it deep in your heart to support my friend in his upcoming marathon run this fall, by donating to this charity. He needs to reach his fundraising goal for the his marathon for American Cancer Society. $5, $10, any amount you can contribute will help a great deal. I would be so grateful to know that I have friends willing to help any friend of mine.
To donate, please visit: http://main.acsevents.org/site/TR/DetermiNation/DNFY11IL?pg=pfind&fr_id=42914 and type in :
First Name: Rodney
Last Name: Tumaliuan
Rodney and his sister will be running in memory of their mother, Redempta Tumaliuan.
Thank you and God Bless you all!
Great Food, Great Friends...what more can I ask for?
Now, to my other favorite thing...My Friends! I am so blessed to have great friends that love and care for me! Meet my friend T (picture on the top). She's my awesome girlfriend here in Miami whom I met two years ago when I first moved here. She's a total gem and opened up her home to me when I was transitioning my move here in Miami. We have our monthly dinners and love to just catch up on life! Now on to the bottom picture, my girlfriend Ivy just recently visited me a few weeks ago to enjoy sunny Miami. Aren't my friends stunning??? Yes, Ivy is one of my dear friends from back when I was still in college. Funny story of how we met...we love telling this story coz of people's reaction. We met on the set of the video shoot of The Game & 50 Cent's "This is How We Do". Please don't even go there...don't ask me why I was at a video shoot. But yes, you can only imagine we were 2 Asian girls in a group of madness. So, we love telling that story. Okay moving on... so, Ivy is not only a dear friend of mine, but a very talented and beautiful model. For those poker fans, she is one of the Royal Flush Girls from the World Poker Tour, hence why she was in town the same week they were here. I will tell you, that group of girls from the models to the crew...were pure awesomeness! Super down-to-earth and far from stuck up! We had such a blast! From lavish dinners to yachts to mani pedis... her visit was much needed "girl time".
These are just two of my good friends... but, you can't blame me for bragging about my awesome friends. I am a broken record...but I am so blessed and lucky to be surrounded by positive people. Despite the occasional drama in life, I feel great to be living in my shoes. My life is kinda awesome. :)
Monday, April 30, 2012
What Happened to Old Fashioned Courtship?
I am on a roll tonight, my mind is still running...hence, you all will get a second blog in the same day. Woo, luck you!
So, I got to thinking...about an incident that occurred during my girlfriend's visit to Miami. My girl i.T. came into town to visit me, as well as enjoy sunny miami. Our first night, we decided to have dinner at Prime 112 in South Beach. It was my first time, so I thought it would be nice to take her there since half of Miami seems to love it there...fast forward---> so, my girl tells me about this guy that had added her on FB and followed her on twitter, who also happens to live in Miami. At this point, the two individuals had been in contact and had made plans to meet up for the first time while she was in town. Home dude decides that he wants to join us after we eat our dinner at Prime 112. So, my girl and I finish our dinner (btw, the steak there is so overrated) and we receive a text that he was on his way. Within 15-20 minutes, she gives me a signal that she sees him walking towards our table. I look at him and of course, not to my surprise, he is a tall, brown handsome man that has abs as hard as my steak that night. Typical south beach dude you can ever imagine. This fine man sits down and joins us at our table. The introductions take place and the conversation starts flowing. Home dude orders a glass of wine...and we continue to pick his brain. Mind you, seemed like an airhead, but he was pleasant to the eyes. He clearly was into my friend, but the conversation was not all there. 30 minutes later, we decide to call it a night and grab the check. So, this guy decides he wants to say hi to his friend that works at the bar. My gf and I review the bill and see that his "glass of wine" was on the bill, yet dude is no where near this check. Don't get me wrong, I can spot you or anyone on a $15 glass of wine...but, please, that is way too tacky for you to walk away when the bill arrives at the table. Yet alone, not even to offer to pay for your wine that YOU ordered at OUR table. What happened to being a gentleman? Am I wrong for feeling this aggravated? Please put me on check if you feel I am overreacting, coz really would love to hear your nonsense response.
I just think that men and women have forgotten the essence of dating and relationships. How often does a man court a woman the traditional way? Sadly enough, I don't see it much these days...especially here in Miami. I am making a commitment to myself to ensure that I do not tolerate this nonsense. Unacceptable I say!
So, if you are still a believer of old-fashioned courtship, please do not hesitate to send me an email at gotfilipina305@gmail.com. Serious, inquiries only. :) Plus, this is way better and cheaper than going on Match.com. ;)
So, I got to thinking...about an incident that occurred during my girlfriend's visit to Miami. My girl i.T. came into town to visit me, as well as enjoy sunny miami. Our first night, we decided to have dinner at Prime 112 in South Beach. It was my first time, so I thought it would be nice to take her there since half of Miami seems to love it there...fast forward---> so, my girl tells me about this guy that had added her on FB and followed her on twitter, who also happens to live in Miami. At this point, the two individuals had been in contact and had made plans to meet up for the first time while she was in town. Home dude decides that he wants to join us after we eat our dinner at Prime 112. So, my girl and I finish our dinner (btw, the steak there is so overrated) and we receive a text that he was on his way. Within 15-20 minutes, she gives me a signal that she sees him walking towards our table. I look at him and of course, not to my surprise, he is a tall, brown handsome man that has abs as hard as my steak that night. Typical south beach dude you can ever imagine. This fine man sits down and joins us at our table. The introductions take place and the conversation starts flowing. Home dude orders a glass of wine...and we continue to pick his brain. Mind you, seemed like an airhead, but he was pleasant to the eyes. He clearly was into my friend, but the conversation was not all there. 30 minutes later, we decide to call it a night and grab the check. So, this guy decides he wants to say hi to his friend that works at the bar. My gf and I review the bill and see that his "glass of wine" was on the bill, yet dude is no where near this check. Don't get me wrong, I can spot you or anyone on a $15 glass of wine...but, please, that is way too tacky for you to walk away when the bill arrives at the table. Yet alone, not even to offer to pay for your wine that YOU ordered at OUR table. What happened to being a gentleman? Am I wrong for feeling this aggravated? Please put me on check if you feel I am overreacting, coz really would love to hear your nonsense response.
I just think that men and women have forgotten the essence of dating and relationships. How often does a man court a woman the traditional way? Sadly enough, I don't see it much these days...especially here in Miami. I am making a commitment to myself to ensure that I do not tolerate this nonsense. Unacceptable I say!
So, if you are still a believer of old-fashioned courtship, please do not hesitate to send me an email at gotfilipina305@gmail.com. Serious, inquiries only. :) Plus, this is way better and cheaper than going on Match.com. ;)
Life is a Rollercoaster
I cannot believe it has been over a month since my last blog. Since then, I moved out of my old apartment, became homeless for two weeks, battled getting my new place, been working like a dog to finish off the basketball season strong, working on business ideas, and now prepping for what I hope to be a long playoff run for the Heat....whoah, i don't think i said all of that in one breath. Yes, as we all have been there and done that...Life is a rollercoaster.
I have been super busy because of the previously mentioned engagements I have been involved in. I am finally able to take a step back and breathe...well, it's only going to last 9 hours coz I am definitely back on the grind first thing tomorrow at 10am.
I have so many aspects in my life I really need to focus on and I feel like I have failed...well, failed is a strong word to use...more like "have not been successful" in accomplishing my short term goals. People, in general, get caught up with the daily components of life...and we forget or should I say "make excuses" as to why something did not get accomplished. I am sure you've heard it all before. "Oh I am too busy and too tired to go the gym". "I don't have time to do laundry". "I want to start up my own business, but I haven't gotten to it". "Oh, I am going to get rid of him soon coz he no good for me". Yes people, I have made these statements myself. I am so sick and tired of my damn excuses. Life aint gonna change itself. I better make a damn move on it if I wanna get any where in life.
But, on a serious note, I have been THAT busy. I am feeling a sense of relief now that this "shortened season" has come to a halt. However, PLAYOFFS is another beast in itself. I am excited. I am up for the challenge. And most importantly, I am ready for a better work schedule.
On another note, I have found myself very disconnected to a lot of my friends, especially ones I consider my best. One of my best friends from college is about to pop pretty soon and have her lil baby girl any minute now. My other girlfriend (who happens to be my Godbro's wife) is also pregnant and should be due in July. And I just found out that my gf from HS in the Philippines just had a baby girl. Do you see the trend here??? Everyone's popping out babies left and right, oh no! Ha, I am happy to see everyone grown up. Again, life throws you some crazy curve balls!
What's next for me? Well, I need to survive the next two months of playoffs and hopefully end in the NBA Finals. Would love to get that championship ring soon. After that, the sky is the limit...until next season starts at least. Funny how we get so consumed in our jobs/careers, we don't even realize how much it actually takes over our life. That needs to change for me real soon. Not going to talk about, just going to do it. Till next time... I shall see you all tomorrow, Playoffs Round 1 Game 2 against the NY Knicks! Ciao.
I have been super busy because of the previously mentioned engagements I have been involved in. I am finally able to take a step back and breathe...well, it's only going to last 9 hours coz I am definitely back on the grind first thing tomorrow at 10am.
I have so many aspects in my life I really need to focus on and I feel like I have failed...well, failed is a strong word to use...more like "have not been successful" in accomplishing my short term goals. People, in general, get caught up with the daily components of life...and we forget or should I say "make excuses" as to why something did not get accomplished. I am sure you've heard it all before. "Oh I am too busy and too tired to go the gym". "I don't have time to do laundry". "I want to start up my own business, but I haven't gotten to it". "Oh, I am going to get rid of him soon coz he no good for me". Yes people, I have made these statements myself. I am so sick and tired of my damn excuses. Life aint gonna change itself. I better make a damn move on it if I wanna get any where in life.
But, on a serious note, I have been THAT busy. I am feeling a sense of relief now that this "shortened season" has come to a halt. However, PLAYOFFS is another beast in itself. I am excited. I am up for the challenge. And most importantly, I am ready for a better work schedule.
On another note, I have found myself very disconnected to a lot of my friends, especially ones I consider my best. One of my best friends from college is about to pop pretty soon and have her lil baby girl any minute now. My other girlfriend (who happens to be my Godbro's wife) is also pregnant and should be due in July. And I just found out that my gf from HS in the Philippines just had a baby girl. Do you see the trend here??? Everyone's popping out babies left and right, oh no! Ha, I am happy to see everyone grown up. Again, life throws you some crazy curve balls!
What's next for me? Well, I need to survive the next two months of playoffs and hopefully end in the NBA Finals. Would love to get that championship ring soon. After that, the sky is the limit...until next season starts at least. Funny how we get so consumed in our jobs/careers, we don't even realize how much it actually takes over our life. That needs to change for me real soon. Not going to talk about, just going to do it. Till next time... I shall see you all tomorrow, Playoffs Round 1 Game 2 against the NY Knicks! Ciao.
Friday, March 23, 2012
Only In Miami...
What in the world happened to concept of 'customer service' in Miami? NEWS FLASH: It has never existed here! I knew that the minute I stepped off that plane over two years ago.
So check this out, I am in the process of moving out of my place into a new spot in Coconut Grove. Mind you, I don't even have the keys, yet alone an approved application...as I patiently wait to see if I will have a home to live in within the next week. So, now that I am waiting patiently for the new place, I have no other choice but to pack ALL of my stuff, hire movers and place it into storage...while I crash at my friend's place for the next several days.
The day starts off: movers are over 1 hour late. Go figure, why I am I surprised... it's Miami. Second, the movers tell me that I have them for 4 hours and that 1 of those hours are allocated to travel time...therefore I have 3 hours of them doing labor. Fine, no problem. Then, I am being told, "oh you can't have storage with us because that's only offered for long distance storage. You'll need to find storage, you can call Public Storage and see what they have available". Wonderful. So, it's 11:30am and I am stressing coz this damn morning hasn't been the smoothest. Okay there's more. So, now that I finally find a storage unit, he starts talking about an additional elevator fee plus, they would be going over 1 hour in labor. So there goes another $155. Seriously? Okay now I am pissed.
I let them do their thang and now it's 1pm...off to Public Storage we go. I place a call to the sales rep that originally set up everything for me and explain to him what I just went through. And for those who know me well, I was actually calm..and as my friend Yumyum says "tracy raises hell". No, I did not raise hell, at all.
The typical response "oh let me get my supervisor and I am sure we can resolve this". Long story short, after a 20 minute conversation with this supervisor. He finally got it. I told him, it's not about the money, it's about the inconvenience and my two hours you wasted. "Okay Tracy we'll see what we can do and I will get back to you". Have I heard back from him? Nope. Not surprised again.
After all this nonsense, the movers are finally finished and we are walking out of the elevator. The one mover says " you know you can break off the movers a tip for the work we did". I was baffled that he had the audacity to ask me for a tip (which I had planned on giving any way). You know, it really pisses me off when sh*t like this happens. Is it really normal these days to ask for a tip for a service you were supposed to do? I'm all about giving a little extra where it's deserved, but please...don't ask me for money.
So, my friends...Miami is cool and all but so much drama attached to it as well. I really hope my weekend gets better...I know there are worse things in life, so I am gonna keep it moving.
This weekend is Ultra here in Miami. IT's going to be crazy hell and I hate that I will be a part of it. Not complaining coz I am blessed to have a job that puts money in my bank account, food in my mouth, and a roof over my head. Well, not sure about the roof thing since I am technically homeless after Monday. LOL.
Anyway, have a blessed weekend everyone. See you next week. Besos.
So check this out, I am in the process of moving out of my place into a new spot in Coconut Grove. Mind you, I don't even have the keys, yet alone an approved application...as I patiently wait to see if I will have a home to live in within the next week. So, now that I am waiting patiently for the new place, I have no other choice but to pack ALL of my stuff, hire movers and place it into storage...while I crash at my friend's place for the next several days.
The day starts off: movers are over 1 hour late. Go figure, why I am I surprised... it's Miami. Second, the movers tell me that I have them for 4 hours and that 1 of those hours are allocated to travel time...therefore I have 3 hours of them doing labor. Fine, no problem. Then, I am being told, "oh you can't have storage with us because that's only offered for long distance storage. You'll need to find storage, you can call Public Storage and see what they have available". Wonderful. So, it's 11:30am and I am stressing coz this damn morning hasn't been the smoothest. Okay there's more. So, now that I finally find a storage unit, he starts talking about an additional elevator fee plus, they would be going over 1 hour in labor. So there goes another $155. Seriously? Okay now I am pissed.
I let them do their thang and now it's 1pm...off to Public Storage we go. I place a call to the sales rep that originally set up everything for me and explain to him what I just went through. And for those who know me well, I was actually calm..and as my friend Yumyum says "tracy raises hell". No, I did not raise hell, at all.
The typical response "oh let me get my supervisor and I am sure we can resolve this". Long story short, after a 20 minute conversation with this supervisor. He finally got it. I told him, it's not about the money, it's about the inconvenience and my two hours you wasted. "Okay Tracy we'll see what we can do and I will get back to you". Have I heard back from him? Nope. Not surprised again.
After all this nonsense, the movers are finally finished and we are walking out of the elevator. The one mover says " you know you can break off the movers a tip for the work we did". I was baffled that he had the audacity to ask me for a tip (which I had planned on giving any way). You know, it really pisses me off when sh*t like this happens. Is it really normal these days to ask for a tip for a service you were supposed to do? I'm all about giving a little extra where it's deserved, but please...don't ask me for money.
So, my friends...Miami is cool and all but so much drama attached to it as well. I really hope my weekend gets better...I know there are worse things in life, so I am gonna keep it moving.
This weekend is Ultra here in Miami. IT's going to be crazy hell and I hate that I will be a part of it. Not complaining coz I am blessed to have a job that puts money in my bank account, food in my mouth, and a roof over my head. Well, not sure about the roof thing since I am technically homeless after Monday. LOL.
Anyway, have a blessed weekend everyone. See you next week. Besos.
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