Sunday, May 13, 2012
Being second best almost means being last...
I've never liked the idea of being second best. I know we all have our competitive tendencies, others don't fancy it too much. I have always been my worst critic...everything I do in life: school, work, relationships, and so on and so forth. In reality, we can't always be number 1 but it would sure nice to be. My girlfriend "lectured" me about being second best and how it was not in my nature to be second in anything. She lifted my spirits by showing me how much she valued me. It's funny because we tend to forget as we always get caught up in the moment. Let's take a look at it from a dating aspect.
Ladies (and gentlemen), have you ever tried getting to know someone or perhaps dated someone, but always struggled to comprehend where you stand with that person? I am sure many of you single folks have heard it before..."oh i am just dating different people. haven't really found the right one that does it for me." Well, every time I hear that statement, i laugh. come on, let's be real. you are not the only one in that person's life. in fact, you could be one of two, one of three, one of five...you get the point. In my early 20's, I remember a gf of mine in college used to say, "hey, i don't worry to much about them other women. if he's talking to 5 girls, then if I am the one he truly wants, they'll all eventually disappear and he'll only want me" I always appreciated her thought process and I started applying her theory to my dating life. Years passed, people came and people went. Most of the time... or I should probably say ALL of the time, the men I dated were just absolutely wrong for me for SO MANY reasons. But the one thing that stuck with me was what my friend told me. I never worried about the other women my dude was 'potentially' dating. All this time, I was thinking it ALL wrong. Why would I be 'okay' with a man sharing his attention with 4 other women, while I am only getting 20%? Really, is that what I am worth? Hell to the No. I am about to be 30 in 5 months... and I have had it all wrong after all these years.
Second best is not an option. Have I settled with some aspects of my life? I certainly have. Can I change that? I certainly can. I recently got involved with someone that ...I could be certain that he has other women occupying his time. Knowing that this is a possibility, why have i managed to stay in this relationship? Hmm. Great question. If I had the answer, then I wouldn't be writing this blog. Bottom line, I have settled for being second best (or third best for all I know). Unacceptable. Especially to my, what I once considered, high standards.
Ladies (and dudes), don't get caught up on some nonsense. There are too many men and women in this world for you to be settling at second best. One day you will meet your King or Queen that will treat you like royalty...and that means always putting you first. I haven't lost faith. But, I am going to be smarter as I get closer to the big 3-0. Smarter...wiser...however you want to call it.
Ladies (and gentlemen), have you ever tried getting to know someone or perhaps dated someone, but always struggled to comprehend where you stand with that person? I am sure many of you single folks have heard it before..."oh i am just dating different people. haven't really found the right one that does it for me." Well, every time I hear that statement, i laugh. come on, let's be real. you are not the only one in that person's life. in fact, you could be one of two, one of three, one of five...you get the point. In my early 20's, I remember a gf of mine in college used to say, "hey, i don't worry to much about them other women. if he's talking to 5 girls, then if I am the one he truly wants, they'll all eventually disappear and he'll only want me" I always appreciated her thought process and I started applying her theory to my dating life. Years passed, people came and people went. Most of the time... or I should probably say ALL of the time, the men I dated were just absolutely wrong for me for SO MANY reasons. But the one thing that stuck with me was what my friend told me. I never worried about the other women my dude was 'potentially' dating. All this time, I was thinking it ALL wrong. Why would I be 'okay' with a man sharing his attention with 4 other women, while I am only getting 20%? Really, is that what I am worth? Hell to the No. I am about to be 30 in 5 months... and I have had it all wrong after all these years.
Second best is not an option. Have I settled with some aspects of my life? I certainly have. Can I change that? I certainly can. I recently got involved with someone that ...I could be certain that he has other women occupying his time. Knowing that this is a possibility, why have i managed to stay in this relationship? Hmm. Great question. If I had the answer, then I wouldn't be writing this blog. Bottom line, I have settled for being second best (or third best for all I know). Unacceptable. Especially to my, what I once considered, high standards.
Ladies (and dudes), don't get caught up on some nonsense. There are too many men and women in this world for you to be settling at second best. One day you will meet your King or Queen that will treat you like royalty...and that means always putting you first. I haven't lost faith. But, I am going to be smarter as I get closer to the big 3-0. Smarter...wiser...however you want to call it.
Tuesday, May 8, 2012
Support my friend as he runs in memory of his mother's life...
The worst thing you can probably ever go through in life is losing a loved one. Unfortunately, a dear friend of mine, lost his mother last month as she battled cancer. I never met her, but I heard she was a fighter. I am sure all of us can't imagine losing someone that close to you... but I know that she is in peace and is watching over her dear family.
If you are reading this, I am asking you to find it deep in your heart to support my friend in his upcoming marathon run this fall, by donating to this charity. He needs to reach his fundraising goal for the his marathon for American Cancer Society. $5, $10, any amount you can contribute will help a great deal. I would be so grateful to know that I have friends willing to help any friend of mine.
To donate, please visit: http://main.acsevents.org/site/TR/DetermiNation/DNFY11IL?pg=pfind&fr_id=42914 and type in :
First Name: Rodney
Last Name: Tumaliuan
Rodney and his sister will be running in memory of their mother, Redempta Tumaliuan.
Thank you and God Bless you all!
If you are reading this, I am asking you to find it deep in your heart to support my friend in his upcoming marathon run this fall, by donating to this charity. He needs to reach his fundraising goal for the his marathon for American Cancer Society. $5, $10, any amount you can contribute will help a great deal. I would be so grateful to know that I have friends willing to help any friend of mine.
To donate, please visit: http://main.acsevents.org/site/TR/DetermiNation/DNFY11IL?pg=pfind&fr_id=42914 and type in :
First Name: Rodney
Last Name: Tumaliuan
Rodney and his sister will be running in memory of their mother, Redempta Tumaliuan.
Thank you and God Bless you all!
Great Food, Great Friends...what more can I ask for?
Now, to my other favorite thing...My Friends! I am so blessed to have great friends that love and care for me! Meet my friend T (picture on the top). She's my awesome girlfriend here in Miami whom I met two years ago when I first moved here. She's a total gem and opened up her home to me when I was transitioning my move here in Miami. We have our monthly dinners and love to just catch up on life! Now on to the bottom picture, my girlfriend Ivy just recently visited me a few weeks ago to enjoy sunny Miami. Aren't my friends stunning??? Yes, Ivy is one of my dear friends from back when I was still in college. Funny story of how we met...we love telling this story coz of people's reaction. We met on the set of the video shoot of The Game & 50 Cent's "This is How We Do". Please don't even go there...don't ask me why I was at a video shoot. But yes, you can only imagine we were 2 Asian girls in a group of madness. So, we love telling that story. Okay moving on... so, Ivy is not only a dear friend of mine, but a very talented and beautiful model. For those poker fans, she is one of the Royal Flush Girls from the World Poker Tour, hence why she was in town the same week they were here. I will tell you, that group of girls from the models to the crew...were pure awesomeness! Super down-to-earth and far from stuck up! We had such a blast! From lavish dinners to yachts to mani pedis... her visit was much needed "girl time".
These are just two of my good friends... but, you can't blame me for bragging about my awesome friends. I am a broken record...but I am so blessed and lucky to be surrounded by positive people. Despite the occasional drama in life, I feel great to be living in my shoes. My life is kinda awesome. :)
Monday, April 30, 2012
What Happened to Old Fashioned Courtship?
I am on a roll tonight, my mind is still running...hence, you all will get a second blog in the same day. Woo, luck you!
So, I got to thinking...about an incident that occurred during my girlfriend's visit to Miami. My girl i.T. came into town to visit me, as well as enjoy sunny miami. Our first night, we decided to have dinner at Prime 112 in South Beach. It was my first time, so I thought it would be nice to take her there since half of Miami seems to love it there...fast forward---> so, my girl tells me about this guy that had added her on FB and followed her on twitter, who also happens to live in Miami. At this point, the two individuals had been in contact and had made plans to meet up for the first time while she was in town. Home dude decides that he wants to join us after we eat our dinner at Prime 112. So, my girl and I finish our dinner (btw, the steak there is so overrated) and we receive a text that he was on his way. Within 15-20 minutes, she gives me a signal that she sees him walking towards our table. I look at him and of course, not to my surprise, he is a tall, brown handsome man that has abs as hard as my steak that night. Typical south beach dude you can ever imagine. This fine man sits down and joins us at our table. The introductions take place and the conversation starts flowing. Home dude orders a glass of wine...and we continue to pick his brain. Mind you, seemed like an airhead, but he was pleasant to the eyes. He clearly was into my friend, but the conversation was not all there. 30 minutes later, we decide to call it a night and grab the check. So, this guy decides he wants to say hi to his friend that works at the bar. My gf and I review the bill and see that his "glass of wine" was on the bill, yet dude is no where near this check. Don't get me wrong, I can spot you or anyone on a $15 glass of wine...but, please, that is way too tacky for you to walk away when the bill arrives at the table. Yet alone, not even to offer to pay for your wine that YOU ordered at OUR table. What happened to being a gentleman? Am I wrong for feeling this aggravated? Please put me on check if you feel I am overreacting, coz really would love to hear your nonsense response.
I just think that men and women have forgotten the essence of dating and relationships. How often does a man court a woman the traditional way? Sadly enough, I don't see it much these days...especially here in Miami. I am making a commitment to myself to ensure that I do not tolerate this nonsense. Unacceptable I say!
So, if you are still a believer of old-fashioned courtship, please do not hesitate to send me an email at gotfilipina305@gmail.com. Serious, inquiries only. :) Plus, this is way better and cheaper than going on Match.com. ;)
So, I got to thinking...about an incident that occurred during my girlfriend's visit to Miami. My girl i.T. came into town to visit me, as well as enjoy sunny miami. Our first night, we decided to have dinner at Prime 112 in South Beach. It was my first time, so I thought it would be nice to take her there since half of Miami seems to love it there...fast forward---> so, my girl tells me about this guy that had added her on FB and followed her on twitter, who also happens to live in Miami. At this point, the two individuals had been in contact and had made plans to meet up for the first time while she was in town. Home dude decides that he wants to join us after we eat our dinner at Prime 112. So, my girl and I finish our dinner (btw, the steak there is so overrated) and we receive a text that he was on his way. Within 15-20 minutes, she gives me a signal that she sees him walking towards our table. I look at him and of course, not to my surprise, he is a tall, brown handsome man that has abs as hard as my steak that night. Typical south beach dude you can ever imagine. This fine man sits down and joins us at our table. The introductions take place and the conversation starts flowing. Home dude orders a glass of wine...and we continue to pick his brain. Mind you, seemed like an airhead, but he was pleasant to the eyes. He clearly was into my friend, but the conversation was not all there. 30 minutes later, we decide to call it a night and grab the check. So, this guy decides he wants to say hi to his friend that works at the bar. My gf and I review the bill and see that his "glass of wine" was on the bill, yet dude is no where near this check. Don't get me wrong, I can spot you or anyone on a $15 glass of wine...but, please, that is way too tacky for you to walk away when the bill arrives at the table. Yet alone, not even to offer to pay for your wine that YOU ordered at OUR table. What happened to being a gentleman? Am I wrong for feeling this aggravated? Please put me on check if you feel I am overreacting, coz really would love to hear your nonsense response.
I just think that men and women have forgotten the essence of dating and relationships. How often does a man court a woman the traditional way? Sadly enough, I don't see it much these days...especially here in Miami. I am making a commitment to myself to ensure that I do not tolerate this nonsense. Unacceptable I say!
So, if you are still a believer of old-fashioned courtship, please do not hesitate to send me an email at gotfilipina305@gmail.com. Serious, inquiries only. :) Plus, this is way better and cheaper than going on Match.com. ;)
Life is a Rollercoaster
I cannot believe it has been over a month since my last blog. Since then, I moved out of my old apartment, became homeless for two weeks, battled getting my new place, been working like a dog to finish off the basketball season strong, working on business ideas, and now prepping for what I hope to be a long playoff run for the Heat....whoah, i don't think i said all of that in one breath. Yes, as we all have been there and done that...Life is a rollercoaster.
I have been super busy because of the previously mentioned engagements I have been involved in. I am finally able to take a step back and breathe...well, it's only going to last 9 hours coz I am definitely back on the grind first thing tomorrow at 10am.
I have so many aspects in my life I really need to focus on and I feel like I have failed...well, failed is a strong word to use...more like "have not been successful" in accomplishing my short term goals. People, in general, get caught up with the daily components of life...and we forget or should I say "make excuses" as to why something did not get accomplished. I am sure you've heard it all before. "Oh I am too busy and too tired to go the gym". "I don't have time to do laundry". "I want to start up my own business, but I haven't gotten to it". "Oh, I am going to get rid of him soon coz he no good for me". Yes people, I have made these statements myself. I am so sick and tired of my damn excuses. Life aint gonna change itself. I better make a damn move on it if I wanna get any where in life.
But, on a serious note, I have been THAT busy. I am feeling a sense of relief now that this "shortened season" has come to a halt. However, PLAYOFFS is another beast in itself. I am excited. I am up for the challenge. And most importantly, I am ready for a better work schedule.
On another note, I have found myself very disconnected to a lot of my friends, especially ones I consider my best. One of my best friends from college is about to pop pretty soon and have her lil baby girl any minute now. My other girlfriend (who happens to be my Godbro's wife) is also pregnant and should be due in July. And I just found out that my gf from HS in the Philippines just had a baby girl. Do you see the trend here??? Everyone's popping out babies left and right, oh no! Ha, I am happy to see everyone grown up. Again, life throws you some crazy curve balls!
What's next for me? Well, I need to survive the next two months of playoffs and hopefully end in the NBA Finals. Would love to get that championship ring soon. After that, the sky is the limit...until next season starts at least. Funny how we get so consumed in our jobs/careers, we don't even realize how much it actually takes over our life. That needs to change for me real soon. Not going to talk about, just going to do it. Till next time... I shall see you all tomorrow, Playoffs Round 1 Game 2 against the NY Knicks! Ciao.
I have been super busy because of the previously mentioned engagements I have been involved in. I am finally able to take a step back and breathe...well, it's only going to last 9 hours coz I am definitely back on the grind first thing tomorrow at 10am.
I have so many aspects in my life I really need to focus on and I feel like I have failed...well, failed is a strong word to use...more like "have not been successful" in accomplishing my short term goals. People, in general, get caught up with the daily components of life...and we forget or should I say "make excuses" as to why something did not get accomplished. I am sure you've heard it all before. "Oh I am too busy and too tired to go the gym". "I don't have time to do laundry". "I want to start up my own business, but I haven't gotten to it". "Oh, I am going to get rid of him soon coz he no good for me". Yes people, I have made these statements myself. I am so sick and tired of my damn excuses. Life aint gonna change itself. I better make a damn move on it if I wanna get any where in life.
But, on a serious note, I have been THAT busy. I am feeling a sense of relief now that this "shortened season" has come to a halt. However, PLAYOFFS is another beast in itself. I am excited. I am up for the challenge. And most importantly, I am ready for a better work schedule.
On another note, I have found myself very disconnected to a lot of my friends, especially ones I consider my best. One of my best friends from college is about to pop pretty soon and have her lil baby girl any minute now. My other girlfriend (who happens to be my Godbro's wife) is also pregnant and should be due in July. And I just found out that my gf from HS in the Philippines just had a baby girl. Do you see the trend here??? Everyone's popping out babies left and right, oh no! Ha, I am happy to see everyone grown up. Again, life throws you some crazy curve balls!
What's next for me? Well, I need to survive the next two months of playoffs and hopefully end in the NBA Finals. Would love to get that championship ring soon. After that, the sky is the limit...until next season starts at least. Funny how we get so consumed in our jobs/careers, we don't even realize how much it actually takes over our life. That needs to change for me real soon. Not going to talk about, just going to do it. Till next time... I shall see you all tomorrow, Playoffs Round 1 Game 2 against the NY Knicks! Ciao.
Friday, March 23, 2012
Only In Miami...
What in the world happened to concept of 'customer service' in Miami? NEWS FLASH: It has never existed here! I knew that the minute I stepped off that plane over two years ago.
So check this out, I am in the process of moving out of my place into a new spot in Coconut Grove. Mind you, I don't even have the keys, yet alone an approved application...as I patiently wait to see if I will have a home to live in within the next week. So, now that I am waiting patiently for the new place, I have no other choice but to pack ALL of my stuff, hire movers and place it into storage...while I crash at my friend's place for the next several days.
The day starts off: movers are over 1 hour late. Go figure, why I am I surprised... it's Miami. Second, the movers tell me that I have them for 4 hours and that 1 of those hours are allocated to travel time...therefore I have 3 hours of them doing labor. Fine, no problem. Then, I am being told, "oh you can't have storage with us because that's only offered for long distance storage. You'll need to find storage, you can call Public Storage and see what they have available". Wonderful. So, it's 11:30am and I am stressing coz this damn morning hasn't been the smoothest. Okay there's more. So, now that I finally find a storage unit, he starts talking about an additional elevator fee plus, they would be going over 1 hour in labor. So there goes another $155. Seriously? Okay now I am pissed.
I let them do their thang and now it's 1pm...off to Public Storage we go. I place a call to the sales rep that originally set up everything for me and explain to him what I just went through. And for those who know me well, I was actually calm..and as my friend Yumyum says "tracy raises hell". No, I did not raise hell, at all.
The typical response "oh let me get my supervisor and I am sure we can resolve this". Long story short, after a 20 minute conversation with this supervisor. He finally got it. I told him, it's not about the money, it's about the inconvenience and my two hours you wasted. "Okay Tracy we'll see what we can do and I will get back to you". Have I heard back from him? Nope. Not surprised again.
After all this nonsense, the movers are finally finished and we are walking out of the elevator. The one mover says " you know you can break off the movers a tip for the work we did". I was baffled that he had the audacity to ask me for a tip (which I had planned on giving any way). You know, it really pisses me off when sh*t like this happens. Is it really normal these days to ask for a tip for a service you were supposed to do? I'm all about giving a little extra where it's deserved, but please...don't ask me for money.
So, my friends...Miami is cool and all but so much drama attached to it as well. I really hope my weekend gets better...I know there are worse things in life, so I am gonna keep it moving.
This weekend is Ultra here in Miami. IT's going to be crazy hell and I hate that I will be a part of it. Not complaining coz I am blessed to have a job that puts money in my bank account, food in my mouth, and a roof over my head. Well, not sure about the roof thing since I am technically homeless after Monday. LOL.
Anyway, have a blessed weekend everyone. See you next week. Besos.
So check this out, I am in the process of moving out of my place into a new spot in Coconut Grove. Mind you, I don't even have the keys, yet alone an approved application...as I patiently wait to see if I will have a home to live in within the next week. So, now that I am waiting patiently for the new place, I have no other choice but to pack ALL of my stuff, hire movers and place it into storage...while I crash at my friend's place for the next several days.
The day starts off: movers are over 1 hour late. Go figure, why I am I surprised... it's Miami. Second, the movers tell me that I have them for 4 hours and that 1 of those hours are allocated to travel time...therefore I have 3 hours of them doing labor. Fine, no problem. Then, I am being told, "oh you can't have storage with us because that's only offered for long distance storage. You'll need to find storage, you can call Public Storage and see what they have available". Wonderful. So, it's 11:30am and I am stressing coz this damn morning hasn't been the smoothest. Okay there's more. So, now that I finally find a storage unit, he starts talking about an additional elevator fee plus, they would be going over 1 hour in labor. So there goes another $155. Seriously? Okay now I am pissed.
I let them do their thang and now it's 1pm...off to Public Storage we go. I place a call to the sales rep that originally set up everything for me and explain to him what I just went through. And for those who know me well, I was actually calm..and as my friend Yumyum says "tracy raises hell". No, I did not raise hell, at all.
The typical response "oh let me get my supervisor and I am sure we can resolve this". Long story short, after a 20 minute conversation with this supervisor. He finally got it. I told him, it's not about the money, it's about the inconvenience and my two hours you wasted. "Okay Tracy we'll see what we can do and I will get back to you". Have I heard back from him? Nope. Not surprised again.
After all this nonsense, the movers are finally finished and we are walking out of the elevator. The one mover says " you know you can break off the movers a tip for the work we did". I was baffled that he had the audacity to ask me for a tip (which I had planned on giving any way). You know, it really pisses me off when sh*t like this happens. Is it really normal these days to ask for a tip for a service you were supposed to do? I'm all about giving a little extra where it's deserved, but please...don't ask me for money.
So, my friends...Miami is cool and all but so much drama attached to it as well. I really hope my weekend gets better...I know there are worse things in life, so I am gonna keep it moving.
This weekend is Ultra here in Miami. IT's going to be crazy hell and I hate that I will be a part of it. Not complaining coz I am blessed to have a job that puts money in my bank account, food in my mouth, and a roof over my head. Well, not sure about the roof thing since I am technically homeless after Monday. LOL.
Anyway, have a blessed weekend everyone. See you next week. Besos.
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Change is always good...
So cliche, right? I am officially inspired to write in the good ol' blog as I was left with some food for thought. My 'boo' just stopped by for a quick second after a long day at work...and we started talking about some of the new ventures that's been creepin' in my head the past few weeks. First off, my head is always running a million miles an hour. This week has been super overwhelming...took off 3 days to focus on moving to a new spot. But, let's say that hasn't been smooth as butter. The transition has been rather rocky considering that I completely changed my plans within the past 72 hours. One minute, I was moving in with a room mate, the next minute, I find myself talking to a realtor about getting a pad in less than 2 weeks. Stressful...yes. But, at the end of the day, I will leave it all in God's hands. Can I get an Amen?
Anyway, back to my mind being on a treadmill. A few weeks back I met a celebrity chef during all-star weekend... and he was so geeked to collaborate with me on a few projects. Im thinking "wow"... have I made that big of an impression? I am a bit surprised...yet, humbled and flattered. He was really trying to get me on board to work with him and help expand his company and clientele. So, I finally decided to start focusing on my goals, both short term and long term. I have always wanted to work on starting my own marketing company. Yeah I know, everyone and their mama is jumping the bandwagon. Every 3 months, I have an emotional conversation with one of my best friends (Miss A in NYC) about how all these mo'fos are making it big without really knowing much and how most are lucky. News Flash: they've made it big and I haven't...yet. So, we go through this 2 hour conversations trying to encourage and inspire each other to utilize our talents to be the best that we can be. It usually works for the first 48 hours, then I go back to being the workaholic Tracy that I normally am. At age 30, I really need to stop complaining at why I am not successful and just f*cking do it. DO IT! DO IT! I swear, everyone just needs to remind themselves...JUST DO IT! Okay, so back to my short evening with my 'boo'... he asked me "so sell TRACY GARCIA. What can you do for me?" Yeah, he put me on the spot. And reality check...that's what life is all about. You gotta always be ready on cue. There's never time to think, you just gotta do. Life is all about improvisation. Yes, my friends, I learned all of that in the matter of 45 seconds. Now, I am going to work harder, stay focused and let no one bring me down. You haters will inspire me to strive higher and higher. Thank you...I will dedicate my first award to all you haters.
With that said, I decided to make more changes this year...that I ever had in my time here in Miami. New home, new friends, new love... actually, I may need to focus on being fully single and not partially single. That always never works. I received a text today from a gf of mine in NY. She texted me that she had recently broken up with her bf. At first, I thought "man, i hope she's holding up okay". Then I continued to ponder.."this is good for her. change is good for her". My girl B is always gonna be in my thoughts, but she a strong woman...she got this. Maybe I need to stop this partial nonsense and focus on being ME again...
Anyway, back to my mind being on a treadmill. A few weeks back I met a celebrity chef during all-star weekend... and he was so geeked to collaborate with me on a few projects. Im thinking "wow"... have I made that big of an impression? I am a bit surprised...yet, humbled and flattered. He was really trying to get me on board to work with him and help expand his company and clientele. So, I finally decided to start focusing on my goals, both short term and long term. I have always wanted to work on starting my own marketing company. Yeah I know, everyone and their mama is jumping the bandwagon. Every 3 months, I have an emotional conversation with one of my best friends (Miss A in NYC) about how all these mo'fos are making it big without really knowing much and how most are lucky. News Flash: they've made it big and I haven't...yet. So, we go through this 2 hour conversations trying to encourage and inspire each other to utilize our talents to be the best that we can be. It usually works for the first 48 hours, then I go back to being the workaholic Tracy that I normally am. At age 30, I really need to stop complaining at why I am not successful and just f*cking do it. DO IT! DO IT! I swear, everyone just needs to remind themselves...JUST DO IT! Okay, so back to my short evening with my 'boo'... he asked me "so sell TRACY GARCIA. What can you do for me?" Yeah, he put me on the spot. And reality check...that's what life is all about. You gotta always be ready on cue. There's never time to think, you just gotta do. Life is all about improvisation. Yes, my friends, I learned all of that in the matter of 45 seconds. Now, I am going to work harder, stay focused and let no one bring me down. You haters will inspire me to strive higher and higher. Thank you...I will dedicate my first award to all you haters.
With that said, I decided to make more changes this year...that I ever had in my time here in Miami. New home, new friends, new love... actually, I may need to focus on being fully single and not partially single. That always never works. I received a text today from a gf of mine in NY. She texted me that she had recently broken up with her bf. At first, I thought "man, i hope she's holding up okay". Then I continued to ponder.."this is good for her. change is good for her". My girl B is always gonna be in my thoughts, but she a strong woman...she got this. Maybe I need to stop this partial nonsense and focus on being ME again...
Monday, March 12, 2012
Family Fest 2012 with the Miami Heat
Yesterday was family fest with the Miami Heat. It was technically a "work" day since a few of us volunteered to help oversee the different restaurants and vendors. It certainly did not feel like a work day at all. Every year, the Miami Heat put together family fest as a charity event...so all kinds of restaurants come out and provide food, while the Heat auction off memorabilia and lotsa entertainment by the Heat Fam, including the players! Fun day, ate more food than I should have, but who doesn't like free food? All the families and kids definitely enjoyed the festivities. Can't wait to attend next year's 16th annual Family Fest. Enjoy :) 
Tuesday, March 6, 2012
Post-All Star Weekend
Folks, it's been a minute... you know me, busy bee every darn day. Last time we connected, I was on my way to Orlando for All-Star Weekend in Orlando. I will admit, I am getting old for this silliness... but hey, this silliness turned out to be a great weekend after all.
My girl B (from college) flew out from NYC for the weekend and we re-lived our youth. Oh, it's great to feel young despite the years are creeping up on my age. Friday through Monday, nothing but pure fun with limited to almost NO drama. That's my kinda weekend. We were fortunate enough to attend many shindigs each night without the hassle of All-Star weekend nonsense. Yes, fortunate to be someone relevant eh? LOL. That's the exact nonsense I am referring to. Our last night in Orlando, we went to one of the many celeb-hosted parties...and I was baffled at how so many people really make an event of this occasion. While waiting at the front of the line (yes, I had to make that clear that it was the FRONT of the line, lol), some of the women behind us were talking bout how they needed to be in the line where they had pre-paid $100 tickets. Okay, really? Wow, I am sure these are ordinary middle-class working women...but you really going to dish out $100 just to walk in the club so you can enjoy the presence of a few celebrities and a hundreds of social climbing individuals? Ahhh, welcome to the world of superficial nonsense. Hey, I can't tell you how to spend your money, but I sure would rather pay that $100 to Miss Sallie Mae. Not to mention the additional $60 you spent on your hair and $100 you dished on that Forever 21 outfit.
I tell myself repeatedly, why do I bother going out? Well, for this weekend's sake, it was all about enjoying the festivities with my former roll dawg. We brought sexy back folks. Hey old folks can have fun too. Thanks for a fun weekend, B!
Okay check you guys later...if you follow my twitter or Facebook, you'll know that March is madness for me. Thanks for checking in. Bless.
My girl B (from college) flew out from NYC for the weekend and we re-lived our youth. Oh, it's great to feel young despite the years are creeping up on my age. Friday through Monday, nothing but pure fun with limited to almost NO drama. That's my kinda weekend. We were fortunate enough to attend many shindigs each night without the hassle of All-Star weekend nonsense. Yes, fortunate to be someone relevant eh? LOL. That's the exact nonsense I am referring to. Our last night in Orlando, we went to one of the many celeb-hosted parties...and I was baffled at how so many people really make an event of this occasion. While waiting at the front of the line (yes, I had to make that clear that it was the FRONT of the line, lol), some of the women behind us were talking bout how they needed to be in the line where they had pre-paid $100 tickets. Okay, really? Wow, I am sure these are ordinary middle-class working women...but you really going to dish out $100 just to walk in the club so you can enjoy the presence of a few celebrities and a hundreds of social climbing individuals? Ahhh, welcome to the world of superficial nonsense. Hey, I can't tell you how to spend your money, but I sure would rather pay that $100 to Miss Sallie Mae. Not to mention the additional $60 you spent on your hair and $100 you dished on that Forever 21 outfit.
I tell myself repeatedly, why do I bother going out? Well, for this weekend's sake, it was all about enjoying the festivities with my former roll dawg. We brought sexy back folks. Hey old folks can have fun too. Thanks for a fun weekend, B!
Okay check you guys later...if you follow my twitter or Facebook, you'll know that March is madness for me. Thanks for checking in. Bless.
Tuesday, February 21, 2012
Just Me
A long awaited blog. Yes, it has been a minute since I graced you with my blogging presence. Since my last blog, my schedule has consisted of long hours at work with a concoction of some Cali love. For those that know me well enough, Cali is my heart and home. When times get tough and stressful, you’ll find me at LAX in a heartbeat. And when times get tougher, my newest form of venting is: blogging. I am changing it up this time… today I am going to open up my mind and heart for you to see what is really going on in this crazy head of mine.
Today was a stressful, then happy, then emotional day for me. You ask why? Well, I don’t think it’s so much as the incidents that occurred today…okay, who am I kidding, yes it is. Don’t you hate it when reality just strikes you in the head and you say to yourself “what the F--- are you doing with your life?” Yeah, I know you’re nodding ‘coz you’ve all been there at some point in your life. For Tracy Garcia, let’s say this happens, ummm… quarterly? Life can be great and you’re happy with friends and family… then one day, you wake up feeling unworthy like you don’t feel like you are fulfilling your destiny. I sound dramatic right now, don’t I? Well, hello…nice to meet you, My name is Tracy “Dramatic” Garcia. I swear, I should’ve pursued that acting career or else I wouldn’t be wasting my time nagging to you all. Anyway, moving forward…
It was supposed to be a normal day at the office. Except, I woke up three hours extra earlier than scheduled so that I could work on a project that I have been trying to finish…or start, to say the least. It was a semi-stressful day, but I knew that my day was going to get better at 5’o clock. After work, I had plans to meet a special someone to spend some quality time. It had been a minute since we had last seen each other. Okay folks, let’s keep this rated G as I know exactly what you are thinking. What you’re thinking is probably right, but no visual graphics allowed beyond this point. Two hours pass and I find myself arriving at home…alone. I sat on my sofa and turned my TV on. Then suddenly, a burst of tears just flowed down my face. I could not understand what was going on in my head and why I was becoming so emotional. Yes, PMS is always the first thought. But, what I could not figure out was why I was feeling all this unwanted energy. I thought to myself, I am far away from home and the people closest and dearest to me are not in arm’s reach. I have a career that I am good at, but is it what I have always been passionate about? I live in a city where it’s nearly impossible to have a semi-decent date without having to deal with the pressures of living up to society’s stupid standards of beauty. And, if we truly want me to be honest, I am involved with a man that cannot fully commit himself to me. My problems sound like every other single woman’s story. Great.
I sit here in front of my laptop trying to find it deep inside of me to just wake up to the reality that this is life. Live it. That’s the first step. Life is all about making choices and the best thing about it is that it’s all in our own hands. I love my life, but I don’t always love the choices that I make. Can’t say I regret any of my choices because it only helps me make better ones in the future. It’s easy for anyone to tell you, “hey, you’re not happy with your job, then quit!” or “He’s a jacka$$ because he don’t want to be with you. So leave!” But, it aint always as easy and simple as it appears to be.
I know this isn’t my usual blog where I am dissecting the emotional and psychological states of men and women, but I wanted to share with you…ME. My thoughts, My feelings, My Vulnerability. I am very capable of being a strong, independent woman, but don’t forget that key word…I am still a woman. Alright, I think I’ll quit being so dramatic and head to bed now. I’ll be back with more of my crazy thoughts. But, it won’t be until after the NBA All-Star weekend in Orlando. You know where to find me. Till next time. Good night.
Tuesday, February 7, 2012
The Price We Pay For Beauty...Do you accept American Express?
I set my alarm this morning for 6:30am, but snoozed at least 3 times. I finally found it in me to get my butt out of bed by 7:40am. I could not even imagine myself stepping into the gym that early in the morning, but all I kept thinking about was that extra 20 lbs I needed to lose. By 7:50am, I was on that treadmill bumpin' my pandora to Beyonce. I sit here as I write this blog shortly after returning from the gym for the second time today. Exhausted, no doubt.
It's a tough society we live in today especially with all the pressures of living in a size 2 world. Hey, they say "thin is no longer in". But, I am sure a large portion of today's women strive to look like they did when they were in college. I will be the first to stand up and say, "Hi, my name is Tracy and I am addicted to losing weight". As a young, single professional, I have seen how my appearance has personally affected my professional career, as well as my dating life. They say that times have changed in the corporate world, but I still feel that "d&*ks" rule this world. How many times have you seen the male manager hire a female because her double d's looked hot in a corset? It baffles me how men would rather hire a female for her looks, rather than her skills, experience, and education. Trust me, I have been a victim of it and I have been given no other choice but to look at the other direction.
They say women have it easy when they've got the goods...and it's absolutely true. These days women strive for beauty in so many ways: bleached blonde hair, fake eyelashes, botox lips, fake a$$, and silicon boobies. I have not seen more plastic surgery than here in Miami. You can't blame a chick if she has to hit up the gym twice a day...look at the thousands of dollars worth of plastic surgery she has to compete with.
Okay, so we all know that I am of Asian descent...ha, boy is it tough out here in Miami to date. Believe it or not, I am part of the 2% asian population that exists here in Florida. Miami has all kinds of beautiful people here, but again not many of them are Asian. As a result, the men here are not normally attracted to women like me. That's okay, I am not trippen at all. I proud of my culture and the beauty that has evolved from it. But, I aint gonna lie. Dating in Miami is tough. With the wide range of men and women here, people are allowed to be picky because they have "options". At the end of the day, the younger, "cosmetically enhanced" woman and the man with the 7-figure income is what will likely bring the two people together. Superficial, yes. Reality, double yes.
Living in Miami for over two years, I used to be so disgusted with the fakeness of the people in this city. After my first 6 months, I finally brushed my opinions aside and accepted it for what it is. The pretentious mindset and the superficial energy of the many "miamians" will never change. I used to spend too much time worrying about how everyone acted, but instead I should have focused on keeping that positive energy in my life. Life and maturity itself has changed me. I told myself that by my 30th birthday, I want to feel and look my best. It's easier said than done, but the focus and perserverance is my driving force. I feel I am more ready than I have ever been. Screw the liposuction and a$$ implants... yes, I will admit that I have considered those two options. Even considered going to Colombia coz I heard the greatest asses are produced there. It's that time to work hard and lose the distractions. Can't let no man tell me that I am not good enough and no woman dare be a threat to me.
Ladies, please continue to tell yourself that you are beautiful inside and out. I have victimized my own self by allowing to think that all the beauty is dependent on the color of your tan, the size of your chest and how hot you look when you rock them Louboutins. I am a proud, independent woman that views her self as smart, sexy and confident. And so should you. If all else fails, watch a few episodes of the Biggest Loser.. that always seems to help me get motivated :)
It's a tough society we live in today especially with all the pressures of living in a size 2 world. Hey, they say "thin is no longer in". But, I am sure a large portion of today's women strive to look like they did when they were in college. I will be the first to stand up and say, "Hi, my name is Tracy and I am addicted to losing weight". As a young, single professional, I have seen how my appearance has personally affected my professional career, as well as my dating life. They say that times have changed in the corporate world, but I still feel that "d&*ks" rule this world. How many times have you seen the male manager hire a female because her double d's looked hot in a corset? It baffles me how men would rather hire a female for her looks, rather than her skills, experience, and education. Trust me, I have been a victim of it and I have been given no other choice but to look at the other direction.
They say women have it easy when they've got the goods...and it's absolutely true. These days women strive for beauty in so many ways: bleached blonde hair, fake eyelashes, botox lips, fake a$$, and silicon boobies. I have not seen more plastic surgery than here in Miami. You can't blame a chick if she has to hit up the gym twice a day...look at the thousands of dollars worth of plastic surgery she has to compete with.
Okay, so we all know that I am of Asian descent...ha, boy is it tough out here in Miami to date. Believe it or not, I am part of the 2% asian population that exists here in Florida. Miami has all kinds of beautiful people here, but again not many of them are Asian. As a result, the men here are not normally attracted to women like me. That's okay, I am not trippen at all. I proud of my culture and the beauty that has evolved from it. But, I aint gonna lie. Dating in Miami is tough. With the wide range of men and women here, people are allowed to be picky because they have "options". At the end of the day, the younger, "cosmetically enhanced" woman and the man with the 7-figure income is what will likely bring the two people together. Superficial, yes. Reality, double yes.
Living in Miami for over two years, I used to be so disgusted with the fakeness of the people in this city. After my first 6 months, I finally brushed my opinions aside and accepted it for what it is. The pretentious mindset and the superficial energy of the many "miamians" will never change. I used to spend too much time worrying about how everyone acted, but instead I should have focused on keeping that positive energy in my life. Life and maturity itself has changed me. I told myself that by my 30th birthday, I want to feel and look my best. It's easier said than done, but the focus and perserverance is my driving force. I feel I am more ready than I have ever been. Screw the liposuction and a$$ implants... yes, I will admit that I have considered those two options. Even considered going to Colombia coz I heard the greatest asses are produced there. It's that time to work hard and lose the distractions. Can't let no man tell me that I am not good enough and no woman dare be a threat to me.
Ladies, please continue to tell yourself that you are beautiful inside and out. I have victimized my own self by allowing to think that all the beauty is dependent on the color of your tan, the size of your chest and how hot you look when you rock them Louboutins. I am a proud, independent woman that views her self as smart, sexy and confident. And so should you. If all else fails, watch a few episodes of the Biggest Loser.. that always seems to help me get motivated :)
Saturday, February 4, 2012
The Man Cheater vs the Woman Cheater
Today I am going to approach this from a different angle. Let me step into the shoes of a man for a second here. So, I am a man and like a large percentage (let’s say 50%) of the male population is bound to cheat at some point in their life. Why do men cheat? If you are woman reading this, I am almost sure you’re spitting out your theories as we speak. In my opinion, I think men are biologically built this way. No excuses here. Let’s break it down and analyze a few of the thousands of theories men (and women) have come up with as to why cheating has been justifiable.
One of the most common theories I have heard is that men just need variety. True. Don’t we all? I almost sure men view women the same way women view shoes. Think about it, we women probably own over 60 pairs of shoes that we don’t need, but we always have that one pair we always want and need to wear. We never need new shoes, however we want a new pair every week to satisfy our shoe craving. Similar analogy, well, I would hope a man doesn’t have over 60 women but I am sure he’ll have a handful of women to choose from. But at the end of the day, he still has that one woman he can go home to. I dated this guy over a year ago and we had a nice debate about cheating. I hate to say he actually made sense, but after he explained the simple concept, I understood exactly what he was saying. Don’t get it twisted, I said I understood him, but not once did I condone it. This guy explained that when a man cheats on his woman, he may not be cheating because of the mere fact that he’s unhappy. A man can be extremely happy with his woman and loves what she does for him in and out of the bedroom. He continued to claim that a man could cheat merely because of the fact that he wants “new pussy”. In his mind, a man could go out and have great sex with another woman and that’s it. That’s all it is…a great f*ck. He can go home and still have bomb sex with his lady at home and be happy. Women, doesn’t that suck? You could be doing everything right, but your man is still bound to go out and cheat on you based on the mere fact that he wants something “new” or “different”. Aint life a b*tch.
Now women, why do we cheat? Ok, let’s just say, hypothetically, I was in a monogamous relationship with a man. What would be the driving force for me to cheat on my man? I think the reasons for why women cheat are pretty cut and dry. If I cheated on my man, I could say that it was a result of either an emotional or physical void that would eventually drive me into the arms of another man. Let’s not rule out the idea that a woman, just like men, also wants variety in their sex life. Okay, since my blog is an open book to the world, I won’t hold back. Many years ago, I once was associated with a married man… notice how I don’t use the word “involved”. Don’t want you to make any preconceived ideas before I even finish my story. Let’s call this married man, Em-B. Em-b was a married man in his mid 30’s with two children. I knew there was an initial attraction when we first met, but I did not pursue him as I knew he was “happily” married. Boy, was I wrong. People are deceiving and sure know how to paint a happy picture. After 6 months of being in each other’s company, I come to find that he was unhappy with his marriage and oops… he had been crushing on me for quite some time. Yes, we had our daily text exchanges and phone calls. We grew to know one another. This man learned to care for me, and even at one point, love me, because I was satisfying a void he felt he was missing. Oh, I know what you’re thinking…silly Tracy, he was just saying that ‘coz that’s what men do! Hey, believe it or not, this man and I never engaged in a physical relationship even after 9 months. At the end of the day, although I was fulfilling his emotional needs, he could not find it in his heart to commit adultery…and the feeling was mutual. After 9 months, we collectively decided that it was in the best interest of his family (and me!) that we no longer pursued this fairytale relationship. I tell you this experience of mine because this one of the few reasons why women find the urge to cheat. Because we women are such emotional creatures, we are always looking for someone to make us feel better about ourselves, give us that attention we lack, and better yet, make us feel like we are worthy. Yes, women are needy…go figure. And the icing on the cake…if we’re attracted to another man, that’s it: let the cheating begin. Okay, if it’s not a lack of emotional fulfillment, women will simply cheat because her man is not holdin’ it down in the bedroom. Pretty simple. She may just want “new” and “better” goods to work her kitty cat. So, if your woman is cheating and you put her on a pedestal, it probably means you suck in the sack, buddy. In this case, women are no longer different than the male population.
So I ask myself, why would I be in a relationship if I just want to cheat on my spouse? The common question people ask is “why don’t you just leave?” Let’s face it people, we don’t like the UNKNOWN. As a woman, I probably won’t take that risk of leaving what I currently have until I really know that the “flava of the month” is the real deal. Why should I leave until I really know that I am upgrading to the Lexus from that Corolla? Women are always aiming to have something better. I admit it, we are never satisfied. Okay, we lose 10 lbs, but we will still think we’re fat. Many women don’t want to take that risk of walking away from something they’ve invested in even if it doesn’t serve her best interest. Men, on the other hand, don’t leave, simply because they want to have their cake and eat it too. Some men can easily admit that and will carry on regardless. Many men just want to have fun and know that they still have someone they can come home to, regardless if they are happy or not. When all is said and done, these men know that they can get away with their infidelities and women will still be likely to forgive them. I will be the first to admit that many women tolerate this kind of foolishness. By no means am I condoning marital unfaithfulness, but I think men continue to do what they do because some women don’t put a stop to it. Come on b*tches, step up your game, be a REAL woman and walk away.
I love this topic, cheating ‘coz I could go on and on. A good friend of mine, E, recently wrote an e-book about “How to not get caught cheating”. I love it because he’s so insightful and this is coming from a man who’s been there, done and said it all! All jokes aside, I really have learned a lot about men and what goes on in their brain because of my boy E. He’s got a great perspective and it’s pretty much reality from his point of view. Men, if you dare want to step up your “cheating” game, this may be your book… hold on, women, I know you are always trying to be three steps ahead because we all know we are smart like that. So, if you are smart, then you’ll check it out. Feel free to visit his site: http://www.wontgetcaughtcheating.com/. If you get the chance to read it, would love to hear your feedback! Nothing like a great conversation about cheating. J
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